Forgiving someone does not mean that you will or should forget what they did to you. Forgiveness is not forgetfulness. In fact, remembering what someone did to you is extremely important in learning how to appropriately love this person.
True forgiveness always leads to love. This love will be more than words, more than warm feelings. The love that flows out of authentic forgiveness will take action. It will try to help the offender in the best possible way, for their good. Knowing how to do this, how to love your offender appropriately, is built upon truth and reality, not denial and wishful thinking. You will not only need to remember what they did to you, but discover the reasons why they did it. This will give you insight and will help you to discover how to best love your offender appropriately.